Today

Today is the day…

The last day in my home. I am finishing up packing. Finishing up storing things. Finishing. I am making strides in separating the last bits of life from my ex husband.

I am also working harder at not stressing on the little things. Trying to believe that i am where I need to be … FOR NOW.

I have gotten a few emails about the nature of this here blog … hehe

Let me address a couple of the concerns here… and those of you who emailed me will most likely get an email back .

When I started my “other blog”  in the beginning I made it clear that I was into BDSM.  More so the D/s  (Dom/sub) portion of this. I have a naturally submissive nature. It isn’t something I play.. It is something that I am. Which is probably why THIS blog makes much more sense to me, and the people who know me best understand this.  There has been concern that I am falling from one abusive relationship … into the realms of or shades of abuse by this being a lifestyle choice for me.

Let me try to explain briefly and I will most likely do another post… expanding on the issue. I am not into pain. I don’t get off on being beaten, or humiliated. I am not into very specific fetishes. In the D/s relationship, play and sexual activity is discussed beforehand … what is comfortable/what is not. What is frightening and what is ok . There is always a safeword when exploring certain areas of play. Sometimes there are contracts involved with what the each party is agreeable to.  D/s relationships are not just about sex… or discipline.. or the kinky stuff. They can be VERY loving. VERY longlasting… sometimes lifelong. I have limitations as far as what I am agreeable to, and any Dom that I would or am involved with would be/is fully aware of these limitations.

I am not giving up my independance. In fact I have made some changes in the last few days that ensures I am a bit more independant. I am not waiting on my life anymore. I am joining it and enjoying it.  I am going to talk to a couple of Dom’s that I know and perhaps they will under assumed identity will gladly write from their point of view. That would be special I think.

I like a strong man. I like a man who is in charge. This is all ok by me. I do want someone who will challenge me and grow with me. I also want someone whom I can be quiet with. Watch a movie with.. hold hands with and kiss. But, this is all something that my future or perspective Dom would know already. They would know everything there is to know about how fragile or strong I am . Good Dom’s know not to break but stretch.

Remember my friends…

Shibari in itself is the art and seduction of Japanese rope bondage.

I didn’t get the name lightly .. and I am not rushing into anything . I want to tell you how much I appreciate your concern and care and for being true friends to email me to say “hey… what is up with that”

You know well enough by now, that I will answer your questions… concerns … and hopefully this answered a few.

Squeezes and Sugars

Shi

~ by hispetshibari on June 12, 2008.